How we attach meaning to events in our lives has a large influence on the quality of our life.
The meaning we assign to our experiences, whether pleasant or distressing, is a very powerful factor in determining the quality of our lives. What we imagine events to mean affects the way we feel about ourselves, about the people in our lives, and about the world at large. If we want to encourage a positive outlook, well-being, and a sense of self-confidence we can start but observing the significance we attach to what we experience.
Imagine, for example, that a friend fails to show up to a coffee date squeezed into the middle of a busy day. You have choices as to what you will make this experience mean for you. You could begin to mentally attack your friend’s character and their lack of respect for you or you could assume that something big must have happened to cause them to miss the date, taking the opportunity to enjoying some down time alone.
These situations arise more than we realize and each is an opportunity to retune how we perceive the world around us, and thus, or experience in it. When we begin to bring consciousness to what we are making things mean, it can be surprising to see the messages we have been feeding ourselves. Try taking the reigns and begin assigning a kinder meaning to the events in your life and you will likely find yourself on a much more pleasant ride.