Alone with Yourself


“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” Wayne Dyer 

As a single woman in my thirties, I see that society is afraid of alone-dom. It's as if lonely hearts are wasting away in basements, like people must have problems if, after a while, they aren't dating. But let's not be so quick to conflate "alone" and "lonely" in others - or ourselves. This difference is a freedom that breaths easy and weightless and is healing if we allow it. 

Alone doesn’t mean you're not connected, that communities are not present and a part of your spectrum of existence. It is often times a choice, a precious gift and a resolute practice that we all - regardless of relationship status - should spend more time fostering. 

Being alone gives us the space to be introspective, to think for ourselves. It is here that we can learn what we need and want, quieting just enough to hear the whispers of our innermost desires. 

The infamous line from Jerry Maguire, “You complete me”, sounds very romantic but what does it really say? Being alone allows us to access ourselves as the complete person we already are.

If being alone is new for you, start small. Carve out time every week to be with yourself. Take yourself solo to a movie or dinner. Venture to new places. Explore. Be adventurous.

Give yourself the gift of your own time and energy – there’s nothing more worth it.

Sachi Doctor

Elemental Alchemy, 90 Rio Vista Avenue, Oakland, CA, 94611

Sachi Doctor is an Ayurvedic practitioner and holistic health coach who founded Elemental Alchemy with the mission to provide a resource for those navigating their way towards optimal mind-body health.

Diagnosed with an autoimmune disease at a young age, Sachi has spent over twenty years exploring different health modalities, treatment plans, diets and mindfulness practices to help alleviate chronic pain and restore balance.

After years of looking to others for a model of health with no relief, Sachi realized that the answers she sought were not hidden in someone else’s prescription for wellness but unique to her, and that the first step towards discovery was actually tuning out what was right for others and tuning into herself.

As she tapped into the wisdom of her own body, she discovered that the elements foundational for health  — the blueprint she so fervently sought — was within her, within each of us. Since then Sachi has been passionate about helping others also cultivate clarity and inner wisdom for vibrant health.

In addition to her Ayurvedic and nutrition education, Sachi has completed over 800 hours of yoga teacher training and continues to study with her mother, her first yoga teacher, for whom these practices are a way of life.

Sachi is a board member of the Prison Yoga Project at San Quentin State Prison and serves as an ambassador for Yoga Gives Back, a non-profit that raises funds within the US yoga community to support microcredit programs for women in India. She holds a Msc in Development from the London School of Economics.